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Ace Pride Shawl

Ace Pride Shawl

In the summer of 2016 I attended my first Pride event. It was shortly after discovering the concept of asexuality and I was desperate to find others like me, people to connect with. I found them when I saw the local asexual community marching in the Pride Parade. Soon afterwards, I started meeting with them regularly; being able to talk with them about their experiences and sharing my own has been both fantastic and validating. During the 2017 Pride festivities, I was out of town attending a conference for my work and was unable to attend any Pride events. So, I scoped out a local crafting store during a quiet afternoon and purchased yarn in black, grey, white, and purple — the colors of the asexual pride flag. I knew I wanted to make something special for myself to celebrate Pride, but it wasn’t until the spring of 2018 that I found the perfect pattern. I knit this in a flurry, completing the shawl in just two weeks of intense work. It felt liberating to work on this shawl out in the open, at friends’ homes, and coffee shops. It represents a part of me that I am still coming to terms with and trying to understand. A few months ago, I wrapped my Ace Pride shawl around my shoulders, held my head high, and joined my new friends, my community, as we marched in the 2018 Pride Parade.

ACE

ACE

My Truth, My Pride as a Demisexual

My Truth, My Pride as a Demisexual