“The way I experience love is meaningful, whole and enough. But maybe this is what they mean when they say sometimes love isn’t enough.”
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“Asexuality isn’t a focus of the book, but to have the word there in black and white, however small, is a powerful, joyful thing.”
“Sexuality is weird and complicated both with and without an A preceding it, but sometimes labels help.”
“…the pieces all fall into place and you can’t imagine ever not knowing what now seems like the most obvious thing in the world: you’re asexual.”
“I look forward to the day when I feel more comfortable saying the words out loud: I’m asexual.”
“It’s something that is often assumed, and not often discussed: the stereotype that people with disabilities do not have sex or have conventional relationships.“
“I’m so much more complicated than our neat, simple and tidy words can describe, and maybe we all are.“
“You’re asexual. It’s more complicated than that, but it is something that finally feels yours.“
Poetry by Terlona Knife.
Art by Daniela Illing.
“Not wanting sex or possibly never having it doesn’t make me or anyone else less than or broken.”
“You never knew how important it was to see yourself reflected on a TV screen. You've never felt so heard, seen, validated, and loved. You weren't imagining your pain; it's real to others too.“
“The ‘A’ in LGBTQIA+ stands for aromantic, asexual, and agender. (…) I often joke that, being all three, I am a void, a black hole.”
"On the internet, many of the asexuals I’ve come across have been white. And while I appreciate that they are out there, it’s hard to relate to them. A white asexual person will never understand my struggle as a black asexual person."
For me, having sex never completes me. On the contrary, it usually makes me feel worthless, even when I’ve had sex consensually.
But… how could I be asexual and a fetishist? Aren’t those two things completely in conflict with one another?
Asexuality is such a valuable way to experience and navigate human connection, and I now know much better than to feel otherwise.
I couldn’t think, speak, or move. I’ve rejected him three times, but three times was not enough for him.
A letter by Gretchen Turonek.
Sex can be a weapon – a dagger that can leave wounds that will never fully heal.